Lileks<\/a> discussed this article<\/a> yesterday (you have to skip past all that stuff about his daughter). I feel that I am equally qualified to comment on the article as him–although I am not a parent, and he is; I am female, and even have been known to lie awake replaying the odd conversation in my head, though I’m trying to cut back on that sort of thing. Lileks discussed this article yesterday (you have to skip past all that stuff about his daughter). I feel that I am equally qualified to comment on the article as him–although I am not a parent, and he is; I am female, and even have been known to lie awake replaying the odd conversation in my […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-162","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/stagingpoint.com\/michele\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/162","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/stagingpoint.com\/michele\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/stagingpoint.com\/michele\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stagingpoint.com\/michele\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stagingpoint.com\/michele\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=162"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/stagingpoint.com\/michele\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/162\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/stagingpoint.com\/michele\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=162"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stagingpoint.com\/michele\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=162"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stagingpoint.com\/michele\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=162"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nIn any case, I feel there is a fundamental problem with the author’s argument. This is that the problem which is described is a different one from the problem for which a solution is offered. Both of these are real problems, but because of this disjunction, one of them goes undescribed and the other goes unsolved.
\np.s. You will find a more well-thought-out commentary by a better-qualified author here<\/a>. If you’ve grown accustomed to the sort of uninformed rambling that goes on around my blog, though, read on.<\/p>\n
\nBefore I talk about this more, I would like to say that the thing that ticks me off most about this article and every other article about mothers, is that the father is apparently not considered or expected to have any role in any of this. This annoys me in discussions of single mothers, in which the financial and parenting role of the father is often completely ignored. Now it is quite true that the father (or mother, when the dad has custody) more often than not uses every possible subterfuge to avoid paying his fair share. But being a jerk doesn’t earn him a free pass, in my opinion. We need to talk about how to get him to do his part before we start discussing how people who are not related to the family, and who certainly would have advised the mother against getting together with this jerk to begin with, had they been consulted, are expected to help out.
\nIn this article, however, the dad who actually lives in the same house<\/span> as his kids is apparently not expected to take any part in raising them, or helping with the housework, or doing anything at all, as far as I can tell. The only reference to a father in the article seems to be a fleeting mention of some mom being disappointed that her husband didn<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"